OT:Grandma

[Steven Cook]

Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.

Steven
Alaska

[Bobbie Sews More]

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time
so I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her
nearly 94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from
so far away. It is what it is.
Steven
Alaska

So sorry your Grandma is back in the hospital. Even though she is far away,
it might help to just go somewhere quite, even if it's just in another room,
and talk to her about all the good times and how much you love her. Both
sets of my Grandparents, Mom & Dad, couple of cousins, Aunt & Uncle are
buried close together in the local cemetery and I am always talking to all
of them when I put flowers on the graves. I am the oldest grandchild and
always thought it was up to me to look after everyone, even my sister.
Barbara in Florida

[Taria]

Oh Steven, I am so sorry. Wow to 94 years. The thought of losing your
mama or g'ma isn't easy whatever the age she and you are. People
we love are in our hearts no matter the ages or whether in this world
or the next. Big hugs to you and your family, Taria

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Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.

Steven
Alaska

[Ginger in CA]

Oh, Steven, it's never an easy thing. Each person has their own memories, and ways to work with the passing of a relative. Like Taria said, she will be with you.

holding you close in prayer/thought,
Ginger in CA

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.
Steven
Alaska

[Ursula Schrader]

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time
so I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her
nearly 94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from
so far away. It is what it is.

Oh dear, I'm sorry to hear that. My grandma died more than 20 years ago and
I still miss her sometimes. You are doing the right thing, remembering the
good times you had with her. Although it is no real comfort, you may assume
that with 94 she has lived a full life, and at least there are no loose ends
for her. Perhaps it might be helpful for you to say good-bye to her in
person. Is it possible for you to go and see her? Other than that, I've
nothing to offer to you but a big hug.

U.

[Roberta]

My son-in-law's grandfather passed away last week, age 98, and SIL
wasn't able to be there. But they were able to skype a couple of days
before the end.
Roberta in D

On Mon, 1 Apr 2013 09:24:42 +0200, "Ursula Schrader"

Post by Ursula Schrader

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time
so I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her
nearly 94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from
so far away. It is what it is.

Oh dear, I'm sorry to hear that. My grandma died more than 20 years ago and
I still miss her sometimes. You are doing the right thing, remembering the
good times you had with her. Although it is no real comfort, you may assume
that with 94 she has lived a full life, and at least there are no loose ends
for her. Perhaps it might be helpful for you to say good-bye to her in
person. Is it possible for you to go and see her? Other than that, I've
nothing to offer to you but a big hug.
U.

[Roberta]

So sorry for your pain! Sharing her with us now and then gave us some
good times too. We'll be thinking of you.
Roberta in D

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.
Steven
Alaska

[Sandy Foster]

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.
Steven
Alaska

I'm so sorry to hear this, Steven. I know it's never easy, and
remembering the good times will be difficult but comforting.

[Tia Mary]

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.
Steven
Alaska

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[Pat on the Green]

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.
Steven
Alaska

Sorry to hear this Steven. Distance doesn't help, but remembering the
good times surely will. Peaceful wishes for both you and your Grandma.

[Pat on the Green]

Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.
Steven
Alaska

Remembering the good things surely must be a help. You will manage this
heart upheaval, but it might not be easy.
Pat S

[Steven Cook]

Thank you all. Grandma is out of the hospital and back at the nursing home,
but no hospice, by choice of my Aunt as the nursing home has services
available. Paralyzed on one side and not recognizing anyone but she is
being fed by the staff. From what I've seen the past several summers, the
staff is very kind and attentive.

There is bleeding on the brain, not a stroke, and it will not end so only a
matter of time. She's being kept comfortable which is good.

No, I can't really make it back there. At least not in any meaningful time.
Alaska to Michigan is a days travel and then a three hour drive from
wherever I was to fly into. I've decided that when I need to I will take a
walk in the woods for and by myself. Talked with my sisters today via
three-way call. One is saddened and dealing with it well considering she
specializes in geriatrics and works at a senior center. The other is jaded
and curt from issues in the family from last summer, with me mostly, and
doesn't really care what I decide. Mom is dealing with memory issues of her
own but doesn't care to see her mother in this state. Aunt has made
"arrangements", whatever they may be, so I'm still in the dark on most
things.

No matter what I decide I'll be damned if I do, damned if I don't. Being
somewhat positive I'll be upholding my black sheep status in the family.

Families can be so difficult and sad to say I'm glad I'm thousands of miles
away. Bert held me close in bed last night. Didn't talk, just held me
tight. Taking deep breaths to get through this and the next two months of
school and everything that is coming due.

Thanks for listening.

Steven
Alaska

[Tia Mary]

Thank you all. (snipped) Taking deep breaths to get through this and the next two months of
school and everything that is coming due.
Thanks for listening.
Steven
Alaska

I tell people that every time you talk about a great loss, you give a
tiny bit of your pain to the other person to carry for you. It helps
you and also the other person because at a time like this, that's about
all someone else can do for you -- listen when you need to talk. I've
lost my mother, father, older bro & older sis and have found that the
best way to deal with it is to just talk about what you feel to whomever
will listen ;/}. Those of us here are way more than happy to listen,
too. Sending prayers Hugs & "Baby" kisses to you. CiaoMeow >^,,^<

PAX, Tia Mary /\___/\

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Post by Steven Cook
Received a call from my Aunt. Grandma is back in the hospital for the 3rd
time in two weeks. All sudden health events. This will be the last time so
I'm trying to remember all the good times of my 51 years during her nearly
94. I don't deal well with life's transitions, and especially from so far
away. It is what it is.
((((Steven)))))
Steven
Alaska